Lessons Learnt in 2015 (Marriage)


Can you believe it is the last day of 2015?

I feel like I only just got used to the year and it is ending already. I also realised a few days ago that I had written so much about motherhood and nothing about married life (when this blog is supposed to be about both). So to mark the end of the year, I want to share some lessons I learnt in my marriage this year.

My love and I have now been married for 2 years (3 years in April) and I hardly know where to begin telling you all that I have learnt during our time together. I have often heard that the first year of marriage is the most challenging but our second year has proven to be even more challenging. Our area of struggle this year was our finances. With my husband being the bread winner and I only able to support with whatever comes from my new photography business, we quickly understood why money was a top reason given for couples splitting up. Through the struggle, I learnt the following:


1. To be content with little.

My mother taught me to always be content. Even when she could afford to buy me certain things, she would refuse always saying, "when you make your own money you can buy them for yourself" and so I am thrifty and usually content with whatever I have. But this year has taught me a whole new level of contentment. It has meant me adjusting and re-adjusting my expectations at every turn and learning to spin every negative situation as positively as possible. Easier said than done sometimes but doable by the grace of God.


2. To be more creative and resourceful. 

I am a creative soul. I love DIY. I have had to draw on that a lot this year. In my business, cooking, clothing, home care, etc. We live in a crazy spending culture and we are tempted to buy and buy but when you have little, you learn that you don't actually need to buy so much if you'll just knuckle down and use your brain. With food for example, I don't exactly enjoy cooking so when I was on my own I ate out a lot and never really paid much attention to how much money I was spending on food. But I have now learnt to be creative with food. Coming up with healthy and tasty meals for my family on a budget has been an achievement. Great lesson don't you think?


3. To be PATIENT. 

A wise lady once said that storms of life can be used to reposition us. I truly believe that all the challenges we faced this year were used to teach us patience. I lack patience naturally but this year I have improved. I learnt to control my emotions, stop complaining, to pray, to wait, to not blame anybody for my situation, to not be so hard on myself and to trust God entirely. I have noticed significant growth in that area of my life so I'm grateful for every thing that has happened to get me here.


4. To be careful what I allow take hold in my mind.

I have a lot to say on this point but I'll keep it short this time. I learnt this year to be very cautious of what I expose myself to. These things can have a powerful hold on the mind and many times I found myself in a foul mood because of something I had heard or seen, which I then let affect my relationship with my husband. So in 2016, I choose to guard my mind against anything that will suck love, life and light from my marriage. I choose to speak life no matter what I am experiencing.


Despite all the lows, the year is ending on a high. We have so many testimonies including financial promotion. Things are getting better and it's all thanks and glory to God. 

 So what marriage/life lessons did you learn in 2015? Please share in the comments below. I would love to hear from you. I wish you and your family a wonderful and glorious 2016 filled with love, joy and peace!